How often do you catch yourself worrying? Does it prompt you to sit down and come up with a plan?
In the earlier days, worry had its benefits. There’s often a problem/ something that happened that isn’t sitting right with us that leaves us worrying. It’s usually our brains way of “noticing a problem” and “worrying” to find a solution. Our brain is logical. If there is a problem, it wants to solve it.
Way back when, if our ancestors had a problem it likely had to do with meeting a basic need – running out of food or lacking shelter. Let’s say they were running low on food. Our ancestors would worry that food supply was running low and this worrying would lead to devising a plan. When do we need to go hunt/find food, who will stay back to protect the village/resources, and whom are our strongest hunters to come with to seek out food. Once the plan to the problem was devised, our ancestors could stop worrying. A plan had been made and they could move forward in their day until when it was time to execute the plan.
In today’s world, we can find ourselves worrying about anything and everything. Did I say the wrong thing last night with friends? What were they thinking of me? or….. Will I have enough food to host our friends for dinner Friday night? Did I pick up enough beverages people will like? Will I have time to vacuum the house right before they come? ….. to… When will life return to normal? Is my kids cough a cold or COVID? Did I remember to sanitize my hands after I left the public restroom?
Whatever it is, we find ourselves worrying and it may no longer be purposeful.
Here are my tips to help you make your worrying more purpseful again instead of being incessant worrying over things you can not change.
- Increase your awareness to worry. How many times a day do you catch yourself worrying about something?
- Begin to get curious about your worry and turn it purposeful by asking yourself questions to help you devise a plan and then allow yourself to stop worrying. (Separate blog post on this to follow)
- Work on using the worry reflection questions to come to solution about what you can control, and learn to let go of what you cannot control.
- When you are worrying about things that are outside your control, practice other coping mechanisms to manage feelings of anxiousness/stress/overwhelm. The feelings are leading you to worry because your brain is trying to solve a problem… but it’s a problem with likely no “solution”.
- Instead practice tools such as mindfulness, body based stress reduction tools, distracting yourself in activities of leisure or self care, being mindful and focusing energy on a work project or time with your family.
If you need further guidance and help with managing worry, anxiety, or stress, head to the Contact or Book with me page to schedule a consultation or 1 on 1 session with Maria at Grounded Evolution.
All my best,
Owner/Founder Grounded Evolution
Your Emotional Guide